JENNIFeR
POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS HUB
Jennifer our main female character is in a relationship with James, but what kind of relationship is it? Is she growing or is she quietly losing a part of herself in this type of open relationship with her Free Agent?
Every relationship runs on patterns. The question is: are those patterns healthy?
Is Jennifer aware of herself, her thoughts, words and actions, whether her behaviour aligns with her values and her dreams?
Positive relationships can only exist where there is self love and self worth. It's the inner belief that you deserve respect not because you have earned it, it's because you exist. (Recommend book - I Am Enough by Marissa Peer.)
When a person truly feels that, boundaries become clearer.
We find out more about the relationship between Jennifer and James in Act 1, Scene 3. It is an open relationship, however, this raises issues of potential insecurity and jealousy on the part of Jennifer.
She is addicted to a man she adores who will never provide the true love she craves. She realises after going on a journey with James, she now wants a traditional monogamous relationship which will provide her with security and love without having to fight for attention.
Here are reflections on Jennifer and James's relationship:
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How does this open relationship serve Jennifer and James - and how might it limit them?
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How are James and Jennifer's individual goals influencing the direction of their relationship? Keep in mind, it was Jennifer initially who approached James to be her lover.
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How is Jennifer's participation in this relationship affecting the direction of her own life
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How does this relationship pattern affect Jennifer and James emotionally and practically?
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How do you know it’s time to walk away from a relationship?
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What ideas can you think of to stay strong and stay away from temptation to return to a relationship you know does not align with the life you want now?
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How much will it cost you by NOT taking action now to walk away, reset and rebuild your life?
FINANCIAL FREEDOM HUB
"90% of women will have sole responsibility for their finance within their lifetime. Yet 79% of all women have not planned for this." Kim Kiyosaki
Self-accomplishment is great for our confidence. To achieve financial freedom is about rewiring your attitude towards money and taking control over it. Self esteem and self confidence will then follow on, improving other qualities in our lives.
Jennifer, our main female character is in her late 30s. We observe she is living alone in a stylish one bedroom apartment. Our audience possibly presume she is renting, not so. Wishing to have control over one aspect of her life, she purchased her first property encouraged by her entrepreneurial friend, Zahida. Which leads on to the question – How would a single lady be able to afford such a luxury? We discover she is self-employed. Has her own business, a café.
Thankfully Jennifer has educated herself to become financially savvy, by attending financial events and listening to educational books about money on the Audible App. More importantly, her friend Zahida whom she trusts, introduced her to a regulated financial advisor.
Jennifer found by sacrificing short term quick fix luxuries, she could attain her long-term goal, her apartment. Also to help her change the way she thought about money and develop a new perspective on her finance she downloaded the app ‘The Secret To Money’ by Rhonda Byrne’. For the first time in her life, Jennifer started to gain financial freedom.
These are the five avenues she took to start her on her journey.
1. She met a regulated financial advisor to talk about her financial goals and put a plan in place. Continues to do that each year.
2. She attends financial events to gain support and knowledge.
3. She was gifted by Zahida - book RICH WOMAN by Kim Kiyosaki. She read it and took that knowledge and used it.
4. She got inspired to save by checking out –
• (Youtube) TED talk by Michelle McGagh.
She took on the No Buy Year Challenge, and Michelle discovered she had spent £400 on coffee in one year alone. She realised doesn’t really like coffee. If we shop, at least be concious of what we are using our money on!
She advised her audience ‘Happiness cannot be bought in a shop!’
• (Youtube) Lara Joanna Jarvis took on a Low Buy Year Challenge. She was saving for a house with her husband. After investigating her spending habits, she had spent £720 on coffees in one year! She confessed that she wanted to go on a girlie holiday that year but believed she couldn't afford it, so didn't go. If she had of planned her finances more, she could have used the £720 on coffees and had a wonderful experience with her friends.
Lara has a support group on Facebook, BUDGET BEST BUY.
• (Youtube) Benefits of having a capsule wardrobe.
READ / LISTEN / LEARN
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I AM ENOUGH - Marisa Peer (self-worth and the beliefs we hold about ourselves)
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Rich Woman - Kim Kiyoaski - financial education, independence and taking greater ownership of money decisions.
SHINE A LIGHT ON YOUR LIFE
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Where in your life are your present choices aligned with what you truly want?
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Where might an old pattern still be making decisions for you?
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What could greater self-worth change in your relationships?
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What is one practical step you could take towards greater financial choice or independence?
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What might become possible if your choices today began supporting the life you want tomorrow?